You yourself, as much as anybody else in the universe, deserve your love and affection.Unknown
We couldn’t find an attribution for this quote but we’re pretty sure it wasn’t Buddha. But it does beg the question, what exactly is self care?
Lindsey prefers this quote when talking about caring for ourselves:
Don’t forget to drink water and get some sun. You’re basically just a houseplant with more complicated emotions.Unknown but found on Instagram
Is there a difference between “self care” and “me time”? Is getting a manicure an indicator that you’re practicing self care?
True indicators of taking care of yourself really should be rest, balanced meals, taking time to eat somewhere other than on-the-go, hydration, exercise–at least by Lindsey’s definition.
Self care is more than treating yourself.
Part of loving yourself is knowing yourself so you understand what you need in order to practice self care for YOU. What you need is whatever helps you to function better.
Jesus commanded us to love our neighbors as ourselves–well, we get the loving our neighbor part but how kind are we to ourselves?
Self care is realizing your needs and feelings matter and you are not responsible for other people’s feelings (but you may be responsible for their needs because parenthood).
Self care is also realizing the issues you personally deal with–and then dealing with those.
Kristi practices this by reminding herself of truth–she is actually in control of her thoughts, feelings, and reactions.
Be aware of other people’s perceptions of self care. If a side hustle makes you feel good, then do it. If it doesn’t, don’t.
What you might need is something in your life that you do because you enjoy doing it.
Consider examining–what are the things that stress me out? One person’s self care list may not be yours.
Lindsey and Kristi both use the Enneagram to help foster their own personal awareness what does and does not work for them. They recommend this book.
You deserve respect and kindness. Whatever you would do for your neighbor if they are down is probably something you should do for yourself.
Love your neighbor as yourself because both of you are important.
Edit Your Life Challenge
Identify an area of your life in which you are neglecting yourself and work to change that.
Kristi needs a way to treat herself for making her deadlines (and other accomplishments) without food. Any suggestions?
As always, find us @lindseypbrackett and @kristiannhunter on Instagram or Facebook. Follow @aroughdraftlife on Instagram or Facebook and join the community! Find out more about Lindsey’s and Kristi’s books on their websites, lindseypbrackett.com and kristiannhunter.com.
Now go, edit your life, and make tomorrow better than today!